See, I don't believe in strict rules, in limiting regulations or in sheltering. I don't believe that keeping your children from worldly influences is going to in turn keep them from sin. And I don't believe that parenting by the "textbook" will produce "x" type of children. This is the problem with those measures, sin is a heart issue. It's not a pornographic website, it's not drugs, alcohol abuse or seductive clothing - these are simply the results. Sin can't be cured by long skirts, no television, or by not kissing before your wedding day. Believe me, I've seen the best little homeschooled kids turn into hellions for adults. I've seen the most perfect, courtship-led marriages turn into divorce and I've seen what appeared to be the most Godly raised children turn away from God completely.
Because our obsession in keeping our children from the bad has to change to filling our children with good desire. Rules and regulations don't work. Rules and regulations don't make you wake up and decide to love your spouse when marriage is hard. Rules and regulations aren't there when your teenage child is being pressured into trying drugs. Rules and regulations aren't going to help when your child comes across a seductive website. Rules and regulations won't change a man or woman who wants to have an affair. Sheltering your children forever is unattainable and strict restrictive measures don't work when you're not there to enforce them. We need a heart change and rules can't do that.
We need to change our children's hearts, not their rulebook. It's easy to make rules, to set restrictions and limit interaction, and in some ways it may seem right. But is it the best way? Shouldn't we be molding their hearts instead of controlling their actions? Shouldn't we be teaching them why instead of "because I said so"? Shouldn't we be answering the tough questions even when it makes us uncomfortable? Shouldn't we be instilling the good desires instead of keeping them from all the bad?