This weekend as we are approaching Mother's Day I find myself wondering how good of a mom I am. And it begs the question of when did YOU become the judge. YOU being a fictional character of whomever happens to be questioning your motives at the time, of course.
You know... Like the Time Magazine which screams "Are You Mom Enough?" Really?! I have to breastfeed my kid until they are 4 to be "Mom Enough"?
We put so much pressure on ourselves as moms. From the moment I peed on that stick almost 10 years ago the slaughter of "right" and "wrong" questions began.
Deli meat or no Deli meat?
Sleeping on your back or side?
Breastfeeding or Bottle?
Immunizations or Not?
Private or Public School?
Preschool at 4 or 5?
The list goes on and on. Everyone has a "theory". Everyone has their opinion. But its just that. An opinion. The more moms I meet the more I realize that most moms want the best for their kiddos. Sure. There are some moms out there that just don't care but for the most part, a mom is a mom. Questioning every decision they make, worrying about every cough or runny nose, stressing over whether their kids will turn out well.
We should be encouraging one another. Building each other up. Offering a helping hand when we see another mom struggling.
Instead we spend our days backbiting, questioning each others motives and very rarely offering a strong support systems for each other.
This Mother's Day I have decided to be not only a good mom, but a great one. Not because I change anything I do, but because I believe I am. No matter what anyone says.