The Not-So-Perfect Perfect Life :-)

Today I am linking up with Becky at From Mrs. To Mama for Women Connect 12.
 
 
I saw that Becky was doing this linkup and thought, what a great idea! I love reading about other bloggers lives, their kids, and families. I love reading the real, unedited versions of parenthood and the joys and struggles that come with that but sometimes I have a hard time putting my "perfect" life into perspective. Mostly because its not perfect... and never will be. The truth is, its the unperfect moments that make us who we are. The bad days, the learning days, and the honest days. Its the "real" us, that for me, sometimes only comes out on black and white on paper or a computer screen. The me, that sometimes I have to write down to actually figure out.

So today you get the whole shebang. The real, unedited version... if I can hit the publish button that is. :-)

I am Casey, for those of you who are visiting for this link. 30 year old mom of 3 and 33 weeks preggo with #4. I have 2 boys (+1 on the way) and a girl. Therefore, my blog name. :-)

 

I was born and raised in the south. Always a southerner at heart, my children say "Yes mam and sir" and my little girl wears huge bows. I believe in southern cooking, big hugs and "Bless Your Hearts". I come from a close southern family with 3 sisters and a brother. There is not a day that goes by that I don't wish I lived closer to them.

I got married at the age of 20 and after a long distance engagement, we moved to Ohio right after our honeymoon. Life's whirlwind started almost immediately when we found out 3 months later that we were going to be parents. I wouldn't trade the world for my sweet not-so-baby of a boy but I am sure my husband must have wondered what in the world he married that first year. As the youngest of 4 boys, I'm sure the hormones were a whole new experience. Plus add in 9 months of sickness, buying your first home, and becoming a dad for the first time!

Since then, we have moved 8 times. From Ohio to Georgia and back to Ohio with couple of stops in between. I actually love to move. But I am thankful to have been settled now for almost 2 years!

Currently, I home school our 2 oldest boys. Jayden is in 4th grade and Evan is in 2nd grade. We are in our 5th year and *most* days find it successful. :-) It is hard work. It takes a lot of commitment. And sometimes I sit at the window and wait for the school bus to pass by wondering if I have the time to throw them on. But for the most part, I have been so happy with the results. They are both so smart and eager to learn. Some days I'm not sure who learns more, me or them. But I love these quiet days of being able to teach them.

Our days are filled mostly with football, basketball, or baseball. Whatever happens to be the sport of the season. My garage has become an unorganized mess of buckets full of sporting gear. But I wouldn't change if for the world. I love being a boy mom. The rowdy, active noise that constantly echos though my house drives me crazy and makes me the happiest woman on earth at the same time. It never ceases to amaze me the incredible difference between boys and girls. The insatiable need for activity, for competition, and for structure.

So that brings us to the girl. The boss. The sassy little 3 year old that pretty much runs the house. Her daddy's little princess that has him wrapped every day of her life. She is all things dancing, makeup and baby dolls. She sits in her new brothers room telling me daily how she can't wait to hold her new brother, feed her new brother, and take care of him. She gets away with anything by the tilt of her head and a little pouty lip but it's OK for now. Time will only tell how long that will last.

My day job finds me working from home doing hiring, billing and payroll for a commercial cleaning company here. I am very thankful for the opportunity to work from home but I hate my job for various reason. Some days I wish I had nothing to do but sit and hold my kiddos. Watch a Disney movie on a rainy day and cook up a huge meal for dinner. But the reality is that most of the time, I don't have the time. I am scheduled from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to bed. But for the most part, I have the best of both worlds. I get to be home, I rarely miss out on any moment of my kids lives and I can still contribute to the finances. And I am excited to say that in the next few months, I will be making some changes that will still allow me to do all of that and do something I enjoy! I can't complain really.

And to wrap up any extra time we may have, my husband and I both decided this year to go back to school. Yep. At 30 and 36, we are hitting the books. He is finishing his Bachelor's degree and I am working on getting my real estate license transferred from GA to OH. I am looking forward to the future results but the intermediate is long and hard. I hope that my kids will see that it is never to late to make yourself better, to learn new things, and to grow from your mistakes.

So, in a nutshell, this is what I blog for. Not the "perfect" life but the real one. The funny moments, the sad moments, the struggles, the bonuses, and the rejoicing. And the funniest thing about it is the support I have found in a wonderful world of people who blog for the same reason. The friends I have made that I may never actually get the privilege of meeting. And the world of people who make up this perfect life with me.



11 comments:

  1. Still can't believe it's been almost 2 years since you've left.

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  2. Coming from the Women Connect. I only have a two year old and am exhausted at the end of the day. You have three, one on the way, home-school and still want to cook dinner? You're my hero. Seriously.

    Newest follower, darlin!

    xo
    Sarah

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  3. Just came over From Mrs to mama! Love the story.

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  4. Girl, you're gonna have four kids and three of them boys? You're my hero :)

    And you homeschool to boot? Seriously? You're a rockstar!

    I'm a boy mama to two boys. Nice to "meet" ya!

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  5. Hi Casey =)
    I really enjoyed reading this! It's always so encouraging to know i'm not the only one going through some of the struggles you mentioned.
    Being a wife in itself is not easy, add being a mommy to the mix (multiple times over, in your blessed case) and you have yourself a full time job!
    AND you work from home? Don't know how you do it, girl, but I applaud you!!
    (Found your blog via the women connect linkup and following you!)

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  6. I'm here from the link up and HOLY WOW woman. You are my hero. I am worn out with a two year old and you have 3?!? My hats off to you!!!

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  7. I absolutely loved reading your blog! You are super Mama! I am from the south and we are all about manners, big bows and smocked dresses too. I am also trying to start real estate classes! Have a great day!

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  8. Stopping by from the link up! Whew! You've got a lot going on! I'm a southern girl too...love the big bows! :)

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  9. WOW.... you are officially my IDOL!

    i love that you have THREE kids and another on the way. I have ALWAYS wanted 4 kids (4 boys) but now that I am 30 and have ONE daughter... I can't really picture adding boys to eh mix let another THREE more children! whew...

    I am for sure a new fan reader of yours, you had me at... " Some days I'm not sure who learns more, me or them"

    AMEN sista! ;)

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  10. Thanks for leaving a comment on my blog. Looking forward to getting to know you more. Wow! You're a busy momma, wife, woman! I love manners, monogrammed items, smocked dresses, football, big bows, "Bless your heart"-all the things that scream the South.

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  11. Here's my blog post on a "perfect life"!
    http://thetruthonlydementia.blogspot.com/

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