I know I'm a day late on this post and for that I apologize! But today we are going to discuss the myths associated with homeschooling. From socialization to needing to be the perfect mom to pull it off, it's all here.
So I'm going to start off with the #1 concern of people who have obviously never been around homeschooled children. :-)
1) Your kids won't be properly socialized.
First of all, this couldn't be farther from the truth. I often chuckle at this question because, while yes, you could live in a bubble, I know of very few homeschool families who do. Between group classes, music lessons, cheer leading, basketball, football, baseball, and whatever other sport my kids seem to be into at the time, I feel like all I do some days is socialize. Then, we can raise the point of quality socialization. And I'm not saying that hanging with other kids all day is bad, but lets face it, one of the biggest areas of improvements I have found in my homeschooled kids is that they interact well and comfortably with all ages. Jayden, at 10 can have a conversation with an adult as well as take care of the baby. He is well spoken, looks you in the eye, and most of the time, speaks intelligently. He doesn't come home with every rhyme or riddle that happens to be going around elementary school, he hasn't picked up too much of the latest jargon. Socialization? Very outdated concern.
2) You must have a degree to teach your kids.
No. There is no state in the United States that requires this. Now, there are some states that require a degree if you are going to teach someone else's child. And there are states, like Ohio, that require a licensed teacher to evaluate your progress at the end of the year to make sure your kids are hitting their milestones. But just to teach your own kids does not require a degree. This is an awesome article to read, ironically about poorly educated parents who have gone on to homeschool their children and for them to consistently ranker higher than national average scores.
3) Homeschooled kids are not as smart.
This really makes me get out my Mommy claws when I hear people talking about this. Don't make me start pulling out stats here. Ok, ok... Just as a sampling of some headlines I quickly glanced through. Homeschooled Teens Ripe for College, Homeschooling: Outstanding Results On National Tests, Can Homeschoolers Do Well In College?, Homeschooling Outcomes: How Do They Compare? The list could go on and on. Are there homeschool children who are not smart? I'm sure. But overall, homeschooling done with the proper materials and with a parent who cares about the outcome of their education, is not only smart, but is outstanding.
4) Homeschooling is too hard.
A lot of people ask me how I can stand having my children at home all day, every day. Well, first of all, we don't spend all day at home. Insert all the socialization we do. And secondly, for the most part, I like having my children here with me all day. They are my buddies. We enjoy one another. Sure there are days when I dart out the door as soon as Jarrod gets home just for some alone time. But overall, I wouldn't trade these days for anything in the world. Then you can have the question about patience. Ask my hubby, I am the most patient person in the world... NOT. Homeschooling does require a certain amount of patience. And I ask for mercy every day. But in the grand scheme of things, patience is such a small portion of homeschooling. It comes as you watch your child master their reading or ace that spelling test. You learn to appreciate the things that take time because those are the things you have taught them to do well.
5) Homeschooling takes too much time.
Really, it doesn't take as much time as you think. When we think about school, we think about the traditional 8-3 or 7-2 hours. And if you want to include lunch breaks, PE, and the fact that you are teaching 30 other children at the same time, maybe you could pull that off. Our typical day lasts 3-4 hours. I like to start in the morning at 9 and be done by lunch. This is a very sufficient time frame for homeschooling. We do have days that go longer if we have a lot to check or review but for the most part we stay within that time limit.
6) And finally, Homeschoolers won't be able to function in the real world.
You know, because the real world requires you to sit at a desk all day with people your exact same age and learn. I mean really, what kind of an argument is that? Not only are homeschoolers typically more self-motivated and self-disciplined, but they are actually more ready for the "real world". Why? Because they are doing "real world" things while their peers are in school. In the afternoons, my kids are grocery shopping with me, going to the bank, helping me cook dinner or mix up chocolate chip cookies. They interact with all age groups, and learn to resolve conflicts with "real world" people. Studies have shown that they exhibit more work ethic and stronger leadership skills.
I'm sure their are more myths about homeschoolers and I will be happy to answer any other questions you may have that I didn't cover. But overall, I hope this covered most of the bases!
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